Monthly Archives: February 2011

Fight with a narcissist? Yeah, right!

It’s Narcissist Friday! In my recent post on living with a narcissist, I suggested that you must be prepared to fight.  What I meant was that the conflict doesn’t seem to end.  It isn’t “knock-down, drag-out” fighting as much as … Continue reading

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Where is Jesus?

 Jesus is alive and well.  He is where you are.  I have long been of the opinion that most of the Christian community isn’t so sure of that.  If you ask a Sunday School child where Jesus is, you will … Continue reading

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Who is Jesus?

This is the primary question of our faith.  The answer separates us from other religions.  The answer makes a difference. Two thousand years of church history has centered on one fact: Jesus is God.  He has come to bring us … Continue reading

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It’s About Jesus

Although it is interesting to talk about narcissism and grace and legalism and church and how they all connect, I would never want to become distracted from the main thing.  I once heard a missionary say, “The main thing is … Continue reading

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Safe People

A good friend wrote to me personally about my last blog post.  The main thing I want to share here is his suggestion that those who must deal with narcissists should “spend lots of time with safe people in your … Continue reading

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Living with a Narcissist

It’s Narcissist Friday! How do you live with a narcissist?  I suppose the flippant answer would be, “With difficulty!” Narcissists are hard to live with.  The more a person exhibits narcissistic characteristics, the more difficult he or she will be … Continue reading

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The New Yoke

(This bears repeating!) Then, along comes Jesus.  He knows that His people have been under a spiritual yoke, a bondage of expectations and failure.  He loves us without expectations and woos us to Himself.  I drew them with gentle cords, with … Continue reading

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The Old Yoke

We all battle with the performance yoke in our lives.  We were taught from the earliest ages that success and failure are based on our performance.  If you do your work well, you will be rewarded.  If you perform poorly, … Continue reading

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Am I a Narcissist?

 Every time I teach on narcissism and describe the narcissist, people find that they know someone very much like the person I describe.  And almost every time I teach this, some people end up feeling guilty that they dared to … Continue reading

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Start the week with right thinking!

The young lady who wrote to me expressed her feelings of inadequacy and her drive toward perfectionism.  Here, in part, is what I wrote to her . . .   . . .  it is very important that we understand … Continue reading

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