It’s Narcissist Friday!
(This blog will be offline for a couple of weeks while I travel. Please enjoy these posts from the archives. Feel free to comment or ask questions. I will be able to respond when I return.)
What is the connection between narcissism and legalism? Why would you bring the two together?
I noticed that several of the people I worked with exhibited aspects of narcissism, some severely. Narcissism is a broken self-image, a hatred of self that is manifested as an inability to value or understand others. Many people think that narcissism is self-love, but it is really only the love of the image of self that is put before others. The real self is an object of rejection and hate. Narcissists can seem to be very loving, but the person loved often feels used or devalued in the process.
Obviously, I can’t put the whole concept of narcissism in a paragraph or two, but it may be something you would find value in studying. The primary way of dealing with someone who has narcissistic tendencies is to realize that you are not going to be the one who causes the person to change and to be able to see yourself separately from that person. You have to maintain your own healthy idea of self in spite of everything that is said or done. You can do that as you understand your own value and identity in Christ.