The topic of friendship is filled with emotion for most of us. On one hand we think of people we almost couldn’t live without. On the other we remember betrayals and pain. Some friends are there when we really need them. Others are there when we don’t want them. Friendships are about hearts and hearts are complicated.
In spite of the fact that we rarely include the heart in the list of things that make up a person (spirit-soul-body), the Bible talks a lot about the heart. In fact, the Bible speaks of it so often and so simply that it seems to assume everyone just knows what the heart is. And maybe we do. The philosophers and scholars can do or say what they want, but we understand that the heart is the center. The heart is who we are.
The heart – the core – the center. If you take away everything on the outside from a person, what do you have left? Change his location, his companions, his appearance, and you still have the same person because of his heart. The heart is different from the mind, but certainly connected to it. The heart is different from that thing in your chest that pumps blood through your system; but, just like that, removing the heart from a person takes away life.
So, if you wanted to drain life from another person, you would want to deal with his or her heart. If you need to control, you would want to control the heart. And, if you wanted to destroy, you would have to destroy the heart.
No wonder so many forces want your heart! No wonder we are cautioned to protect our hearts! No wonder we hide our hearts in response to betrayal or deception.
Family has special access to our hearts. Friends are closer to our hearts than others. But narcissists, legalists, exploiters, and others want access to your heart. They know that they don’t really have you unless they have your heart. So they learn how to get in.
This week, I want to write about our hearts. Do these thoughts prompt any questions?