The key to protecting your heart is to only give it to one person. If there is one person you can trust completely, who has only your best in mind, who will never betray you or leave you, and who is strong enough to never fail you—that’s the person you want to give your heart to. Anyone less than that is risky. Of course, there’s only one person like that I know. Only Jesus.
In a world like ours, we talk about safe people. They are harder and harder to find. Part of the problem is that we expect too much. We expect others to be like Jesus. But they are not and cannot be. They will fail us. Some will be mean and cruel and hurt us on purpose. Others will hurt us just because they are weak and broken themselves. No one has what we need—except Jesus.
So, will Jesus always do what you want? Will He always have a miracle handy to bail you out of trouble? Yes and no. Probably more than you would guess, but less than you would like. He is generous in His love, but He will not be commanded by anyone. The thing to remember is that He loves you. He is wise enough not to give you everything you want, but He still loves you. He will always love you.
The Scripture says that the Lord is a strong tower and we can run to Him and be safe. Knowing that we always have Him allows us to risk relationships with others. Not expecting them to give us what we can only get from Him allows us to relax as we relate to them.
Two facts change everything. We are accepted by Him and we do not have to be afraid.
Those who do not know they are acceptable will often compromise to feel accepted. They will allow their hearts to be manipulated and controlled, just so they can fit in or feel loved. But if you are already accepted by the One who really matters, then perhaps you have some protection against the manipulations of others.
Those who live in fear will sometimes do terrible things to themselves and to those they love just to find some peace. They will give themselves over to almost anyone who will make them feel safe. Sadly, the ones who offer protection and formulas for security are often the ones who do the most harm.
So trust Jesus. He is strong and good and He loves you. From the relationship you have with Him, you will be able to reach out to others. Love your spouse and your kids and your friends, but don’t expect more from them than they can give. Don’t trust your heart in their hands. Jesus will keep your heart safe.