It’s Narcissist Friday!
We have made our annual trip to the north country, the land without television, cell phone reception, or internet. Okay, that’s an exaggeration. We choose not to have television, the internet is frustratingly limited, and cell reception is really bad. It’s actually great!
My sources of news these days are MSN and Fox websites. It is nice not to have to listen to the political stuff, but it seems to be impossible to escape the constant spin. One candidate says something and gets into trouble, then spins a perspective that satisfies supporters. Then the other candidate does the same thing. Over and over we hear outrageous things and the amazing spin that makes those things acceptable.
If you had no other evidence that our culture is nearly overwhelmed by narcissism, the spin alone would be enough. When the truth can be twisted so much that horrors are made to sound good, we have lost something.
Narcissists are masters of spin. If you look up the definition of spin, you might be disappointed. For today’s purposes, spin is simply defined as political bias. But it is much more than that. Spin is twisting the truth to make someone or something look good. It isn’t quite lying, although the truth will be missing at the end. The word actually comes from spinning yarn, meaning the action of twisting threads. But it came to mean telling a story that wasn’t quite true, “spinning a yarn.” Today, spin could be defined as “twisting strands of truth to create a new, usually favorable, perspective.”
Catch a narcissist in a lie and you will see what spin is. Watch a narcissist fail and learn how truth can be spun. Narcissists can take tiny threads of truth and twist them to make you the devils and themselves the saints. Some of them are very good at this, but even those who are not so good seem to get by with it.
I have enough internet to know the story about the Stanford rape. Here’s a link to the story, but what I want you to read is the statement by the rapist.
***WARNING*** There will be triggers in what you read. It will probably make you very angry. This is the young man who was convicted of rape, three felony convictions, but was able to convince the judge to grant a light sentence. Three felonies and the young man will probably be on the streets in three months.
So this young man is suffering because of college life and easy alcohol. If he was released, he could warn others about these bad things. He just wants to get on with his life. If he wasn’t so good at swimming, he wouldn’t even be newsworthy. Blah, blah, barf.
A lot of people are angry about this statement, but we understand don’t we? You have heard this before, probably many times. “It wasn’t really my fault. I am the one suffering here. I did nothing wrong. I’m a changed person and can help others now.”
Spin. Twisting the truth. Who cares about the victims? Just so long as the narcissist comes out okay.