It’s Narcissist Friday!
“The person who says he has no regrets probably lies about other things also.”
My father and I used to say that to each other. Life is full of missed opportunities and wrong decisions. Investments that don’t pay off, friendships that turn sour, dreams that fade away. If you have never suffered disappointment in life, you haven’t lived very much. We all have ideas of how things should have been but were not.
I believe regret is part of investing in life. We try, and sometimes we try hard. But then it doesn’t work, and we are disappointed. Regret is normal.
But the key to regret is moving on. Don’t let failure or disappointment become a stopping place in your life. You may never forget, but you can move on. Regret is just a memory.
If you let regret be a normal part of your progressing life, you won’t waste time and energy trying to fight it or deal with it. You can feel it without making yourself live at that point.
Jesus told His disciples to go into a village to tell them the good news. (Matthew 10) If the people of the village did not receive the gospel, the disciples were to “wipe the dust off” their feet and proceed to the next village. Was this because Jesus would give only one chance and then abandon the lost? Of course not. This was for the sake of the disciples.
No, Jesus didn’t want the lost to stay lost. He came for the lost He came with good news, and He wanted the people to receive it. Those who would never receive His gift would suffer, and the importance of sharing the gospel was serious, but the disciples were never responsible for the results. They were to move on.
When we feel that something is important, perhaps vitally important, we want to see success in our efforts. But failure and rejection do happen. They are part of dealing with real people. And those failures and rejections are not to remain stuck to us. We are to wipe them off and move on.
Don’t let your regrets rule or ruin your life. Too many people are stuck at the point of their regrets. They cannot forgive themselves for failure. They cannot forgive someone else for an offense. They cannot let go of a dream that has slipped away. They live in the moment of their regret.
Not you. You are more than the events of your life. You have a future and a hope. There is more to life than what you have been through. Find it by letting yourself move forward.
It has been my experience that there are people in our lives who don’t want us to move beyond a certain negative point in our lives. It is a point they can laugh at or use against us. They label and categorize us by that one point in our lives. These abusers hold you to that regretful point of time or event so they can keep you weak and confused. They seek to control you by your regret.
Don’t let them. That is not where God sees you. He sees you walking perfectly with Him. He is always looking forward to something wonderful for you.
I have always loved the revelation of the heart of God in Jeremiah 29:11,
For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the LORD, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope. Jeremiah 29:11
This is a word for you today. God wants you to move toward the future He has in mind for you. Don’t get stuck along the way.