It’s Narcissist Friday!
The popular television series began with the song that asked: “Who are you?” The answer to that question may be the key to living the victory of the Christian life.
I have written a lot about identity, knowing who you are in Christ. At the end of this post is a list that was put together several years ago by Neil Anderson. I hope you find it helpful.
The point is that this is the real you. The evil one has worked hard to get you to disbelieve the truth or to ignore it. He constantly reminds you of your failings and tells you that you will never be what Christ has promised. But Christ has already made you who you are and who you will be. Now you are growing into that truth.
We are being “transformed by the renewing” of our minds. In other words, our thinking is changing. The victory of the Christian life, what Jesus has done for and in us, is already ours, but we have to own it and hold onto it. We have to let the old ways and definitions go. We are not what we used to be.
So, you are not being true to your self when you put yourself down or say that you are stupid or lazy or whatever. Sin, whatever it is, is unworthy of who you are. You do not need what it offers. It has no power over you.
Narcissists and other abusers try to steal your identity to replace it with the negative things they feel about themselves. They blame you for their decisions and actions. You may think that is simple lying, but it has a powerful effect on too many people. They are persistent and “logical.” I have talked with women who believed it was their fault their husbands abused them. I have talked with adults who believed they deserved the abuse of their parents when they were children. These people have ignored the truth about themselves in Jesus and accepted the lies of the abusers.
The evil one is an abuser. He hates you and wants you under his control. He wants you discouraged and weakened by doubt and fear. If he gets his way (and he usually does) he stops us from living the victory and joy of our walk with Jesus.
I’m not sure it is possible to talk about this too much. These lies destroy our joy, our peace, and our hope. They are shared by almost everyone. So many who write to me about terrible situations explain that they are partly to blame. They have embraced the lies about themselves.
No one has the right to abuse you. You do not deserve to be used or manipulated or treated with cruelty. Those who put you down are ignorant or deceptive.
So, be true to your self, the self Jesus knows. Be true to the one who is free and victorious and secure. Be true to the one who does not need what sin offers and can never be bound by its power. Be the child of the King, the citizen of Heaven, the beloved of the Father.
That’s who you are!